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How To Handle Exhaustion, Disconnection, and Physical Pain | Meditation with Bart van Melik

12 min episode · 2 min read
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Episode

12 min

Read time

2 min

Topics

Productivity, Health & Wellness, Software Development

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Key Takeaways

  • Finding okay, not perfect: Locate one small body area that feels acceptable rather than seeking bliss or dramatic transformation, making meditation accessible during exhaustion or discomfort.
  • Kindness as practice framework: Ask repeatedly what kindness would do right now—how it would breathe, sit, or speak—to shift from fixing mode to gentle awareness of present experience.
  • Body appreciation without conditions: Offer gratitude to the body for enabling presence rather than judging it by appearance or performance standards, creating unconditional acceptance through simple acknowledgment.

What It Covers

Bart van Melik guides a body-scan meditation focused on finding one small area that feels okay and relating to it with kindness and awareness.

Key Questions Answered

  • Finding okay, not perfect: Locate one small body area that feels acceptable rather than seeking bliss or dramatic transformation, making meditation accessible during exhaustion or discomfort.
  • Kindness as practice framework: Ask repeatedly what kindness would do right now—how it would breathe, sit, or speak—to shift from fixing mode to gentle awareness of present experience.
  • Body appreciation without conditions: Offer gratitude to the body for enabling presence rather than judging it by appearance or performance standards, creating unconditional acceptance through simple acknowledgment.

Notable Moment

Van Melik reframes meditation success as noticing something good enough rather than achieving peak states, making the practice viable even during physical pain or disconnection.

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Episode Transcript

This is the Ten Percent Happier podcast. I'm Dan Harris. Hello everybody. Today, we've got a short guided meditation for my friend Bart Van Melek, who is our teacher of the month for January over on the, 10% app or meditation app. Fair warning, nothing dramatic is gonna happen here. You're not aiming for bliss or insight or a upgrade of your personality. The practice we're gonna do today is simple. It's about just noticing the body as it is, finding one small place that feels okay. Not great, just okay. And then we're gonna see what happens when you can relate to that experience with just a little bit of kindness. So there's no fixing, no forcing, no pressure here. This is a low key meditation. Just a little bit more about Bart. He's a meditation teacher and psychotherapist who comes at all this stuff in a very practical way. He has trained in Insight Meditation and Buddhist Psychology, and he's worked in clinical settings with people dealing with stress, anxiety, and a lot of harsh self talk. If you wanna get more meditations from Bart and many of the other amazing teachers we work with, check out my new meditation app, 10% with Dan Harris. You also get this podcast with no ads and weekly live meditation and q and a sessions with me and many of the aforementioned teachers. Come join us. We're gonna take a quick break, and we'll be right back with Bart's meditation. Here's a problem I have. I like to eat. I especially like to eat healthy food, but I don't shop unless I'm forced. And I don't cook unless I'm forced. So this is my problem, but very recently, an awesome solution dropped into my lap. It's called Hungry Root, and it is an incredibly easy way to eat healthy. Hungry Root basically works like a personal nutrition coach and shopper in one by planning, recommending, and shopping for everything for you. They take care of the weekly grocery shopping, recommending healthy groceries tailored to your tastes, nutrition preferences, and health goals. I did the onboarding at Hungry Root. It was super quick, very easy. Few days later, I got a huge box on my doorstep with healthy frozen meals that I can literally just pop into the microwave and eat in the middle of a busy day. They're delicious. Huge fan. Also in the box, a bunch of snacks and other groceries like salad ingredients, etcetera, etcetera. All delicious, all fresh, all healthy. Take advantage of this exclusive offer for a limited time. Get 40% off your first box plus get a free item in every box for life. Go to hungryroot.com/happier and use the code happier. That's hungryroot, hungryroot.com/happier and use the code happier to get 40% off your first box and a free item of your choice for life. Funny thing happened to me the other day. I was having a conversation with one of my oldest friends, Willie, …

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