The Power of Choice: Moving from Victim to Empowered Chooser with Jamie George

Welcome to the Science of Success. Introducing your host, Matt Bodnar. Jamie, welcome to the Science of Success. Thank you, Matt. Great to be with you, brother. Well, I'm excited to have you on the show in this special edition that we're doing. I've done a few live interviews in the course of the history of the show, but this is it's been a while since I've done in person live show for the Science of Success, so it's really good to have you here. Thank you. It's fun. I like being you know, there's a different energy when you're in person. Right? Absolutely. At some point, I wanna download from you this whole setup and, like, how you the the logistics of getting it put together because I really like the studio and the vibe and A lot of people smarter than me. That's always a good strategy. Yeah. So, Jamie, you and I have a bunch of connectivity, but we met each other literally sitting next to each other at a dinner. I know. How crazy was that? And the funny thing is we sat next to each other this dinner the entire night. And, I mean, we kind of exchanged pleasantries, but we didn't really speak that much. And then, you know, as we were finishing dessert, basically, we realized we had a mutual acquaintance that we knew really well, and then we started talking about psychology. Right? And I had no idea that it really what you had done in that world. And, you know, I'm an amateur kinda dabbling in the space, but I find the topics to be super interesting. So, you know, you started talking about a couple things, and I was like, yo, this guy's really smart. And I wanted to kinda dig into it. So the first thing you you mentioned to me at dinner the other night was this concept that I hadn't heard of before that I thought was really cool, which was the distinction between agreements and expectations. Yeah. So I'd love to hear your perspective on what is that and, you know, why is it important. Expectations are what we believe about how other people will behave. And it's interesting because it's part of our vernacular. Right? We oh, well, you know, I've got these expectations. Or in the business world, I'll often hear, hey. Be really clear about your expectations. Yep. And it sounds lovely like, oh, that's good. If I was clear on my expectations, then that other person will really know how to do the right thing, which will essentially please me. Now if you notice that for just a second, you realize pretty quickly this whole thing about expectations is one directional. Like, even if I'm clear about my expectations, what I think is clear suddenly turns out at some point along the way, not clear. I've had that experience many, many times. Right? Yeah. And so, fundamentally, I just started going I …