Why Modern Marriage Fails and What Couples Can Do About It

When you say to someone, okay. I'm I'm signing up for you. Like, I'm there's 8,000,000,000 options, and I'm picking you. It's big. Do you think there is still wisdom in getting married? We're talking about a technology that fails catastrophically 56% of the time. Staying together for the kids even though you hate each other or staying together because you don't wanna give away half your things is also a failure. So what's that? Another 10%? Well, we have Okay. Now we have a technology that 76% of the time fails. Marriage is a legal status. It's a contract between you and the government, essentially. Like, you and Lisa have a prenup. No. No. No. You do. You do. It was written by the government. It's written by the government, and they can change it without your permission. The truth is all marriages end, and when they end. James Sexton, welcome to the show. Thank you, Tom. It's good to be here. It's been it's been a while in the making. Yeah. It is, I'm very glad that we were able to put it together. Yeah. Yeah. The intersection that you live at is endlessly fascinating to me. You approach love marriage in a way that I find extremely unique. You've called love an economy Yeah. In the way that people are exchanging value. Yeah. And I'm curious, what is it exactly that people are trading whether they realize it or not? It's very funny because people find the term economy describing love as an economy or relationship with economy like a little profane. And I love it. Yeah. I don't I don't mean it in a negative way. I mean it in, like, a really honorable way that it's about a sharing of value, like a trading of value. And we're very much now in the zeitgeist of talking about equality, you know, and that, like, women are capable of working, men are capable of working, men should be caregiving with children, women should be caregiving with children. No one should be doing 100% of the labor in any sphere of relationship. I understand that argument, and I think it's because there was an imbalance for so long, you know, where it was like women are this is what you do, women. You are at home with babies, and that's your job. Men, you get out there and, you know, put the women and children in bed and go out looking for dinner. Like, this is your job. You know? And there was no option other than that. And now we kind of did what we do, which is, you know, we treat dandruff with decapitation. Like, we went so far in the other direction that now we said, no. Everyone has to do everything, and how dare anyone suggest that, you know, you do my laundry, or how dare you suggest that the man has to do this. And so for me, an economy you know, how …