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How To Use Psychology and Buddhism To Handle Your Inner Critic | Amita Schmidt

61 min episode · 2 min read
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Amita Schmidt

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61 min

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2 min

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Health & Wellness, Relationships, Leadership

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Key Takeaways

  • Internal Family Systems basics: IFS views the psyche as containing multiple parts like an inner family, with a wise self that can lead them. The goal is self-leadership where your wisest version drives the bus, not your critic or anxious parts, making decisions while other parts inform.
  • Working with the inner critic: Ask your critical part what it fears would happen if it stopped criticizing you. This reveals the underlying protective intention. Meet it with curiosity and compassion from your wise self, not another part that wants it gone, to avoid creating internal civil war.
  • Accessing wise self through expansion: Make your mind as wide as the sky or envision your 80-year-old self to access wise presence. Check if you have an agenda to change something—if yes, you're in a part, not wise self. Wise self exhibits the eight c's: curiosity, compassion, calm, connectedness, courage, creativity, confidence, clarity.
  • Labeling technique shifts brain processing: UCLA research from 2007 shows that simply labeling difficult emotions like "inner critic" or "anxiety" moves processing from the amygdala (fight-or-flight) to the prefrontal cortex (reasoning center), creating immediate space and reducing emotional reactivity without requiring meditation experience.
  • Acceptance enables transformation: Schmidt's chronic depression from age five ended after twenty years when she surrendered the fight against it. Paradoxically, accepting "if I live with this forever, it's okay" preceded the insight that depression was empty—just energy and thoughts with no solid substance—causing the pattern to unhook permanently.

What It Covers

Amita Schmidt, psychotherapist and Buddhist meditation teacher, explains how to combine Internal Family Systems therapy with Buddhist meditation to work with your inner critic and difficult emotions through psychological healing and spiritual transcendence.

Key Questions Answered

  • Internal Family Systems basics: IFS views the psyche as containing multiple parts like an inner family, with a wise self that can lead them. The goal is self-leadership where your wisest version drives the bus, not your critic or anxious parts, making decisions while other parts inform.
  • Working with the inner critic: Ask your critical part what it fears would happen if it stopped criticizing you. This reveals the underlying protective intention. Meet it with curiosity and compassion from your wise self, not another part that wants it gone, to avoid creating internal civil war.
  • Accessing wise self through expansion: Make your mind as wide as the sky or envision your 80-year-old self to access wise presence. Check if you have an agenda to change something—if yes, you're in a part, not wise self. Wise self exhibits the eight c's: curiosity, compassion, calm, connectedness, courage, creativity, confidence, clarity.
  • Labeling technique shifts brain processing: UCLA research from 2007 shows that simply labeling difficult emotions like "inner critic" or "anxiety" moves processing from the amygdala (fight-or-flight) to the prefrontal cortex (reasoning center), creating immediate space and reducing emotional reactivity without requiring meditation experience.
  • Acceptance enables transformation: Schmidt's chronic depression from age five ended after twenty years when she surrendered the fight against it. Paradoxically, accepting "if I live with this forever, it's okay" preceded the insight that depression was empty—just energy and thoughts with no solid substance—causing the pattern to unhook permanently.

Notable Moment

Schmidt describes depression falling away after she realized it was empty of substance, like looking at the Big Dipper constellation and suddenly seeing only seven separate stars instead of one solid formation. The struggle with a nonexistent thing simply dissolved when she stopped fighting it.

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Episode Transcript

This is the 10% Happier podcast. I'm Dan Harris. Hello, my fellow suffering beings. How we doing today? On this episode, we're talking about how to harness two incredibly powerful modalities to deal with your inner critic, or frankly, to deal with any difficult part of your personality. My guest has been working for years in both psychotherapy and in Buddhism, and she very skillfully blends these two disciplines. Specifically, she combines Buddhist meditation with a kind of therapy called Internal Family Systems or IFS. It was invented by a man named Dick Schwartz who's been a guest on the show a couple times. The basic idea of IFS is that we all have an inner cast of characters in IFS. They're called parts. And there are ways to identify and work with these various parts, including your inner critic, so that you're not owned by your parts all of the time. My guest today is Amita Schmidt. She's been working for decades as both a Buddhist meditation teacher. In fact, she was a resident teacher at the legendary Insight Meditation Society for years. And also as a licensed psychotherapist. In this conversation, you'll hear us talk about how psychology and Buddhist meditation can work together, the basics of internal family system, her own personal path through trauma, depression, and then a pivotal insight that changed everything, Why states like depression are not as solid as they may feel. How to work with your inner critic. Simple ways to access the sanest and wisest version of yourself. The shift from psychological healing to spiritual insight. The value of acceptance and surrender, simple pointers for sensing what's called aware presence beneath all of your mental noise, and much more. Don't forget to download my new app, Ten Percent with Dan Harris. You can sign up at danharris.com. There's a free thirty day trial if you wanna try before you buy. Right now, we're running a seven day New Year's meditation challenge with Joseph Goldstein. It started on January 5, but it's not too late to join. Again, you can sign up at danharris.com. We'll get started with Amita Schmidt right after this. The best b to b marketing often gets wasted on the wrong people. I can't tell you how often I'm scrolling and I get served ads for stuff I have no interest in. So when you wanna reach the right professionals, use LinkedIn ads. LinkedIn has grown to a network of over a billion professionals, including a 130,000,000 decision makers. And that's where it stands apart from other ad buys. You can target your buyers by job title, industry, company roles, seniority, skills, company revenue. So you can stop wasting budget on the wrong audience. It's why LinkedIn ads generates the highest b to b return on ad spend of all major ad networks. Seriously, all of them. Spend $250 on your first campaign on LinkedIn ads and get a $250 credit for the next one. Just go to …

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