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How To Stop Getting Dragged Around By Your Anxieties, Thought Loops, and Insecurities | Sebene Selassie

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21 min

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2 min

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Productivity, Health & Wellness, Fundraising & VC

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Key Takeaways

  • Mindfulness as embodied awareness: The Pali word *sati* — the origin of "mindfulness" — means more than paying attention. It encompasses body, mind, and emotions holistically. Because the body exists only in the present moment, it serves as a reliable anchor when the mind drifts into past regrets or future anxieties during meditation.
  • Getting distracted is correct practice: Losing focus during meditation is not a failure — it is the mechanism of the practice itself. The moment of noticing distraction and returning to the breath or body *is* the practice. Reframing forgetting as necessary to remembering removes self-criticism and makes restarting feel productive rather than discouraging.
  • Freedom is available in single moments: Full enlightenment aside, practical freedom from anxiety, thought loops, and insecurity can be experienced breath by breath. Finding even one moment of peace within a spiral of worry constitutes genuine freedom. This makes meditation immediately useful rather than a long-term project with delayed returns.
  • Posture flexibility lowers the barrier to entry: Sitting cross-legged on a cushion is not required. Standing, lying down, or sitting in a chair all work. The one structural guideline is keeping the body open rather than collapsed, which supports breathing and alertness. Lying down fully releases muscular tension, making body-scan awareness easier for many practitioners.
  • Clarifying personal intention accelerates habit formation: Before starting a practice, identifying a specific *why* — stress reduction, better sleep, more focus, or presence for others — creates a motivational engine that sustains consistency. Intention can start self-focused and expand outward over time, but even a narrow initial reason produces compounding benefits within weeks of regular practice.

What It Covers

Dan Harris and meditation teacher Sebene Selassie preview their Audible original *Even You Can Meditate*, covering mindfulness fundamentals, the Buddhist concept of sati, the five hindrances, posture options, and how intention shapes practice — designed for distracted or overwhelmed beginners and experienced meditators alike.

Key Questions Answered

  • Mindfulness as embodied awareness: The Pali word *sati* — the origin of "mindfulness" — means more than paying attention. It encompasses body, mind, and emotions holistically. Because the body exists only in the present moment, it serves as a reliable anchor when the mind drifts into past regrets or future anxieties during meditation.
  • Getting distracted is correct practice: Losing focus during meditation is not a failure — it is the mechanism of the practice itself. The moment of noticing distraction and returning to the breath or body *is* the practice. Reframing forgetting as necessary to remembering removes self-criticism and makes restarting feel productive rather than discouraging.
  • Freedom is available in single moments: Full enlightenment aside, practical freedom from anxiety, thought loops, and insecurity can be experienced breath by breath. Finding even one moment of peace within a spiral of worry constitutes genuine freedom. This makes meditation immediately useful rather than a long-term project with delayed returns.
  • Posture flexibility lowers the barrier to entry: Sitting cross-legged on a cushion is not required. Standing, lying down, or sitting in a chair all work. The one structural guideline is keeping the body open rather than collapsed, which supports breathing and alertness. Lying down fully releases muscular tension, making body-scan awareness easier for many practitioners.
  • Clarifying personal intention accelerates habit formation: Before starting a practice, identifying a specific *why* — stress reduction, better sleep, more focus, or presence for others — creates a motivational engine that sustains consistency. Intention can start self-focused and expand outward over time, but even a narrow initial reason produces compounding benefits within weeks of regular practice.

Notable Moment

Selassie, who has lived with metastatic stage four breast cancer for fifteen years after a stage three diagnosis at 34, describes meditation not as a distraction from suffering but as a tool to meet pain directly — building genuine capacity rather than avoidance.

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Episode Transcript

This is the Ten Percent Happier podcast. I'm Dan Harris. Hello, everybody. How we doing? So today, we've got something special. It's a sneak preview of a new audiobook that I worked on with the meditation teacher, Seven a Salassy. It's called Even You Can Meditate, and it's officially out on Audible. You can listen right now by visiting audible.com/danharris to grab a copy of the book, and I will drop that link in the show notes as well. I'm very excited about this audiobook. Seb and I worked really hard on it. You can think of it as a practical rescue plan for anybody who feels too distracted or overwhelmed to start or restart a meditation practice. It guides you through various traditions and techniques to help you find the style that actually will work for you, for your life, for your brain, etcetera, etcetera, so that you can derive all the benefits that come from, an abiding meditation habit, like reduce stress and improve sleep. Speaking of habits, by the way, the book comes with tons of practical evidence based hacks for booting up a habit that will actually stick. So what you're about to hear in this little preview are two sections from the book. The first is an introduction where Seb and I talk about what we're gonna be doing in the book, why intention matters, and how to adapt these practices to work for your particular brain. The second section dives into mindfulness itself. What it is, what it isn't, and why the word is is actually kind of a misnomer. We also get into some practical stuff about posture, stillness, and the so called five hindrances, the very predictable challenges that tend to come up in meditation like desire, aversion, restlessness, doubt, etcetera. Okay. Before we dive in, two quick things. First, just a little bit about my coauthor, Seven a. Salassy. Many of you, I think, will know who she is. But if you haven't heard of her, she's an author and a teacher and a three time cancer survivor and a very close friend and an awesome person. Second, and this is very cool, over on my new meditation app, which is called Ten Percent with Dan Harris, we're gonna be running a five day even you can meditate challenge. It will run, from March 23 through the twenty seventh. Every day will feature a different practice from seven a. These practices will be good for newbies and experienced people alike. And during the course of the challenge, Seb and I will do two live online events where we will guide a meditation and then take your questions. So if you wanna join the challenge, all you have to do is download my new app, and you can find that app at danharris.com. Alright. We'll get started with Sebben a Salassie right after this. Chime is changing the way people bank. It's fee free and smarter banking built for you. It's not …

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