Part 2: How To Forgive & Let Go of Your Past with Sage Robbins & Mary B
Episode
22 min
Read time
2 min
Topics
Relationships, Software Development, Psychology & Behavior
AI-Generated Summary
Key Takeaways
- ✓Ho'oponopono Practice: Use four phrases (I'm sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you) repeatedly without specific context to clear emotional energy and neutralize anxiety, guilt, or shame. Can be applied to yourself, others, countries, or situations you witness.
- ✓Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len's Prison Work: A Hawaiian doctor transformed mentally ill prisoners in the 1980s-90s by reading their files and repeating Ho'oponopono phrases hundreds of times without meeting them, demonstrating how clearing internal resonance affects external reality through energetic connection.
- ✓Six Steps Framework: Join with source/God, contemplate the problem, take complete responsibility for its existence in your life, commit to handling things differently post-forgiveness, mutually pardon and forgive, then give thanks with closing prayer for structured forgiveness work.
- ✓Alternative Release Phrase: When direct forgiveness feels hierarchical or someone has passed, use "The spirit in me connects to the spirit in you, I release you, I forgive you, I bless you, thank you" while visualizing them in golden or violet light.
What It Covers
Sage Robbins and Mary B explore Ho'oponopono, an ancient Hawaiian forgiveness practice using four phrases: I'm sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you. They discuss practical applications for healing relationships and releasing guilt.
Key Questions Answered
- •Ho'oponopono Practice: Use four phrases (I'm sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you) repeatedly without specific context to clear emotional energy and neutralize anxiety, guilt, or shame. Can be applied to yourself, others, countries, or situations you witness.
- •Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len's Prison Work: A Hawaiian doctor transformed mentally ill prisoners in the 1980s-90s by reading their files and repeating Ho'oponopono phrases hundreds of times without meeting them, demonstrating how clearing internal resonance affects external reality through energetic connection.
- •Six Steps Framework: Join with source/God, contemplate the problem, take complete responsibility for its existence in your life, commit to handling things differently post-forgiveness, mutually pardon and forgive, then give thanks with closing prayer for structured forgiveness work.
- •Alternative Release Phrase: When direct forgiveness feels hierarchical or someone has passed, use "The spirit in me connects to the spirit in you, I release you, I forgive you, I bless you, thank you" while visualizing them in golden or violet light.
Notable Moment
Sage identifies nine specific reasons people resist forgiveness: blaming others for misery, demonizing people, unrealistic expectations, addiction to past pain, repeating old stories, valuing being right over connection, believing others don't deserve forgiveness, and numbing through distraction.
Episode Transcript
Hi. Thanks for listening to the Tony Robbins podcast. This is just a quick note about this episode in case you'd rather watch and see the video of this conversation. That's found at youtube.com/tonyrobbinslive. If you'd like to listen, you're in the right place. There's something else I would really like to talk about as long as we're on the topic of forgiveness. I was wondering if we could talk about Hopoponopono. Okay. Because for me, in my forty some years on this planet, the most transformational if I had to say, like, one thing, like, this has been the thing A practice. A practice that has really served me in my life. It's what you and Toni, have taught in the last maybe ten years of of seminars and things. And that's this ancient Hawaiian practice called. Mhmm. And I would love to go there with you. Okay. I let me set let me set a little context for those of you who have not heard about it. I have this little book here. There's many books about Hopo'oponopono. Yes. This one was the smallest one on my shelf and that's why I grabbed it. But I think that it does, it does a great service. I think Billy Beck got us these books. He did. He did. Billy loves to Tony's trainer often comes over and brings us poignant little books, and this happens to be one of them. This one's by Ulrich Dupree. It actually mentions Tony's name in here, by the way. I think that's why Billy brought it over. Anyway, hopoponopono is the Hawaiian ritual of forgiveness. It proceeds from an understanding of the unity of everything in the world, which is true even though we feel ourselves to be separate. Because of this unity or oneness, nothing can happen in our world without creating a resonance in the observer. It follows then that we can only influence problems in the external external world if we heal the corresponding inner resonance. Okay. To accomplish this, relies on four magic sentences. I am sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you. That is the gist of And so in Hawaii, and I have this one note on this page here, so it's h o apostrophe o means to make, and then means right or correct. So it means to make right to correct. And it's just the most beautiful thing. I've seen you do it in, we do it in our own life. Oh, all the time. Talk to us about. Okay. Well, once again, for those of you who are listening, this is a tool. It's a practice, and we all find our way and these are all tools that assist with mental well-being, with mental health. Certainly been my experience, the Ho' Hopa Ono, there's inquiry, EMDR, tapping, you had mentioned about individuals, you know, that have certain, you know, traumas or things to heal, and this is one of those really, remarkable …
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