Stop Attracting The Wrong Relationships. Do This To Find Lasting Love! | Lewis Howes

If you wanna stop being in relationships that you feel like you're failing in and they aren't making you happy, then you need to stop repeating the same patterns that you've always repeated. And you need to learn how to become the best partner for someone and also learn how to attract the right type of partner for yourself. But how do you do that? Well, today, I put together a master class with the five most impactful conversations with relationship experts that we've had here on The School of Greatness to help you understand how to create lasting love in your life. In this first section, I'm speaking with the one and only Esther Perel, who is a psychotherapist known for her expertise in modern relationships, erotic intelligence, and infidelity. And on the most important internal work that you need to do to improve your future relationships. What is the main thing you would recommend people work on themselves, whether in transition of relationships or in a relationship? Is there one thing that they could always be working on to improve themselves, to be better for other relationships? If their entire story about the relationship that just ended is about what the other person did wrong to them, something is missing in the story. Yeah. That doesn't mean that the other person may not have done things that were hurtful to them. But add to it, who were you in this relationship? Absolutely. What role did you play? What did you see that you didn't wanna pay attention to? Mhmm. What things do you wish you had done differently? What pieces do you wish that your partner had seen and accepted from you differently? Mhmm. Where did you wish you would have said less, and where did you wish you would have said more? What do you learn from this relationship? And if when you say what you learn is just that I wanna make sure that the next person is Right. Gives me what I need. You know, or is less of this or more of that, you know, who do you want to be in the next relationship? How are you gonna add value? A relationship is a story of many people. It's not even a story just of two. Who was too involved in your relationship? Mhmm. Who was not involved enough? So it's the it's there's a cast of characters in the relationship. And, and it's all those questions that you wanna ask when you are in transition. What what I think that's it. I mean, you can Yeah. But they are both directions. If you find yourself with a a spotlight only on the other person and you in a passive receptive, stance, you're missing Yeah. A whole pan of the story. Yeah. And you're probably more of the problem than the of the relationship than them if you're just focusing on them probably. A relationship is not about this person and that person. …