Wisdom With Money Means Moving Slowly

Brought to you by the EveryDollar app. Start budgeting for free today. Normal is broken. Common sense is weird. So we're here to help you transform your life. From the Ramsey Network and the Fair Winds Credit Union studio, this is The Ramsey Show. I'm Dave Ramsey, Ken Coleman, number one best selling author, host of Front Row Seat, a big hit on the Ramsey Networks. He is Ramsey personality that is my cohost today. The phone number is (888) 825-5225. Sarah is in Atlanta. Hi, Sarah. How are you? I'm good. How are you? Better than I deserve. What's up? Oh, I'm doing good. So my question is that, so I am in a relationship. We are not married, but we do just call each other as partners. We're both unhappy. I've voiced it. He's voiced it. And it's mainly due to our communication style and our lack in our differences. Like for me, I'm more of a person like I love a clean house, I love to be supported by like acts of service and, going out together. He's more of a homebody and he's really affectionate, but I didn't grow up to be like a affectionate person. And, when we do talk about issues, it does become escalated very quickly, such as if we're not seeing eye to eye, he's quick to yell and point fingers. And I'm also just withdrawal like I'll go to a different room where I say just talk to me later when you're, when you're calm. So I'm just want to know like how can we better communicate without, or how do I handle him or handle situations when he's yelling at me and, how to do better with that so he can see my perspective and see see it more like a team issue instead of, like, he's against me or I am against him. How long have y'all been dating? So we've been together for five years, and we have a child together. Has the relationship been the way you just described to us the entire time? Oh, no. It was way worse in the beginning. So, he would Well, at least we're trending up. That's I didn't expect that answer. What do you think is caused it to get better? I think it's caused what caused it to get better is maybe I've I'm one of those people, like, I learned to protect myself, like, my emotional state. So sometimes I just withdraw and I think of something else. Because in the beginning, he was very verbally abusive towards me. Like, he'll yell at me. He'll curse me out, like, for hours on end, like, for three hours or four hours. Even when I was pregnant, we had, arguments for that long and to the point where they're they would just escalate where he's, like, in my face shouting and stuff. And, Is that still happening? Oh, no. It's not happening anymore. Like, we talked, I talked about it. …