“I Want To Trust My Husband, But He Wants To Get Rich Quick"

Brought to you by the EveryDollar app. Start budgeting for free today. Normal Normal is broken. Common sense is weird. So we're here to help you transform your life. From the Ramsey Network and the Fair Winds Credit Union Studio, this is the Ramsey Show. I'm Dave Ramsey. Jade Washaw, number one best selling author Ramsey personality is my cohost today. Open phones here at (888) 825-5225. Nicole is in Boston. Hi, Nicole. How are you? Hello. I'm well. Thank you for taking my call. Sure. What's up? I'm in the situation where I very much wanna trust my husband's judgment on finances in our future, but we've hit, like, a rocky patch here where, we just keep well, he just keeps kinda digging us into more and more debt in the in, like, the hopes that we'll get out of it one day with some this risky real estate world stuff. Mhmm. And I don't know how to dig ourselves out of that and, like, maintain respectful marital boundaries doing that. And I don't know. I just my opinion kinda gets thrown aside because I'm not as risky. I don't wanna take risks. I'm not Well, it's not the risk. It's the get rich quick. Right? The get rich quick. I'm not a fan of that strategy. Mhmm. Yeah. So here's the deal. You're not called to respect your husband if every time he gets in a car, he drives it into a ditch. You go, you suck at driving. Give me a deal. That's not disrespectful of your husband as a husband. It's disrespectful of his driving ability because he sucks at driving. So don't get this confused that somehow respect is I'm supposed to turn a blind eye to idiocy. That's not respect. That's just that's just enabling. Then when you give respect and and you give a compliment for something that he actually does right, we don't know if it's real because you also endorse stupid stuff by call it and call it respect. No. No. He can't drive a car. He keeps running in the ditch. Honey, you need driving lessons, and I'm not riding with your butt until you learn how to drive. You suck at driving. That's not really I mean, some version of that, nicer than that, is not disrespectful. That's not disrespecting the position of that you love your man, you love your husband, you think he's a good guy. That's just telling the truth. He sucks at driving. Telling him the truth, and even a good friend would do that. And he sucks at handling money. His his his his views of money are broken. So, that's how you balance it. You don't balance it. You get you're getting confused about what respect means. It doesn't mean turning a blind eye to misbehavior or incompetence. That's not respect. So tell us what he's what hole you're in and what he's thinking of doing next to get out. Yeah. So it's …