198: Geoffrey Miller on Signaling, Mating, and Morality
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81 min
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2 min
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Productivity, Relationships, Fundraising & VC
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Key Takeaways
- ✓Sexual Selection and Creativity: Human intelligence, humor, art, and music evolved not primarily for survival but as courtship displays to attract mates. These traits function as reliable signals of genetic quality and brain function, similar to peacock plumage or birdsong. This explains why people invest enormous energy in creative pursuits that lack obvious survival benefits but generate sexual and social attention.
- ✓Proximate vs Ultimate Motives: The evolutionary function of behavior differs from conscious motivation. A painter may experience pure intrinsic joy while creating art kept private, yet the capacity for creativity itself evolved because it historically increased reproductive success. Understanding this distinction prevents reducing all behavior to conscious mate-seeking while recognizing evolutionary origins shaped these capacities over thousands of generations.
- ✓Virtue Signaling Spectrum: Virtue signaling ranges from cheap talk like bumper stickers to reliable costly signals like dedicating one's life to solving major problems. The most effective signals are authentic and heartfelt, not performative. Moral outrage functions as a signal of non-negotiable values, making it feel indistinguishable from genuine conviction. Both good and bad human behavior involve signaling.
- ✓Neurodiversity and Speech Codes: Implicit social taboos and unstated ideological boundaries discriminate against people with Asperger traits who cannot read between the lines. Requiring self-censorship based on unwritten rules asks neurodivergent individuals to perform cognitively impossible tasks. This eliminates creative eccentrics from public culture and STEM fields, where many naturally aspie individuals contribute breakthrough innovations.
- ✓Scope Insensitivity Bias: Humans cannot emotionally process large-scale suffering. One suffering kitten triggers strong empathy, but ten billion factory-farmed chickens killed annually remains inconceivable. Effective altruism requires cognitive augmentation through graphs, charts, and mathematical reasoning to overcome Pleistocene-era minds and think rationally about existential risks like pandemics, nuclear war, and artificial intelligence.
What It Covers
Evolutionary psychologist Geoffrey Miller explores signaling theory across human behavior, from sexual selection and creativity to political ideology and virtue signaling. The conversation examines polyamory, neurodiversity, effective altruism, existential risks, and how evolutionary psychology explains modern courtship, morality, and social dynamics through the lens of game theory and mate selection.
Key Questions Answered
- •Sexual Selection and Creativity: Human intelligence, humor, art, and music evolved not primarily for survival but as courtship displays to attract mates. These traits function as reliable signals of genetic quality and brain function, similar to peacock plumage or birdsong. This explains why people invest enormous energy in creative pursuits that lack obvious survival benefits but generate sexual and social attention.
- •Proximate vs Ultimate Motives: The evolutionary function of behavior differs from conscious motivation. A painter may experience pure intrinsic joy while creating art kept private, yet the capacity for creativity itself evolved because it historically increased reproductive success. Understanding this distinction prevents reducing all behavior to conscious mate-seeking while recognizing evolutionary origins shaped these capacities over thousands of generations.
- •Virtue Signaling Spectrum: Virtue signaling ranges from cheap talk like bumper stickers to reliable costly signals like dedicating one's life to solving major problems. The most effective signals are authentic and heartfelt, not performative. Moral outrage functions as a signal of non-negotiable values, making it feel indistinguishable from genuine conviction. Both good and bad human behavior involve signaling.
- •Neurodiversity and Speech Codes: Implicit social taboos and unstated ideological boundaries discriminate against people with Asperger traits who cannot read between the lines. Requiring self-censorship based on unwritten rules asks neurodivergent individuals to perform cognitively impossible tasks. This eliminates creative eccentrics from public culture and STEM fields, where many naturally aspie individuals contribute breakthrough innovations.
- •Scope Insensitivity Bias: Humans cannot emotionally process large-scale suffering. One suffering kitten triggers strong empathy, but ten billion factory-farmed chickens killed annually remains inconceivable. Effective altruism requires cognitive augmentation through graphs, charts, and mathematical reasoning to overcome Pleistocene-era minds and think rationally about existential risks like pandemics, nuclear war, and artificial intelligence.
- •Polyamory vs Monogamy Evolution: Humans evolved pair bonding instincts over millions of years, but lifelong sexual exclusivity represents a cultural overlay, not biological imperative. Ethical polyamory involves multiple ongoing committed relationships with full knowledge and consent of all parties, distinct from casual hookups or polygyny. Individual differences in sociosexuality do not capture this dimension, requiring new research frameworks.
Notable Moment
Miller describes how mastering human influence creates alienation, comparing pickup artists who lose respect for women to comedians who perfect timing and politicians repeating stump speeches. Once someone understands human nature well enough to manipulate responses predictably, interactions become mechanical stimulus-response loops rather than genuine human connection, leading to contempt for audiences and depression despite external success.
Episode Transcript
Welcome to the psychology podcast, where we give you insights into the mind, brain, behavior, and creativity. I'm doctor Scott Barry Kaufman. And in each episode, I have a conversation with a guest who will stimulate your mind and give you a greater understanding of yourself, others, and the world we live in. Hopefully, we'll also provide a glimpse into human possibility. Thanks for listening, and enjoy the podcast. Today, it's great to have Jeffrey Miller on the podcast. Jeffrey Miller is the author of Virtue Signaling, Spent, and The Mating Mind, the co author of Mate, What Women Want, and the co editor of Mating Intelligence. He has a BA from Columbia and a PhD from Stanford. He's a tenured evolutionary psychology professor at the University of New Mexico and has also worked at the University of Sussex, the Max Planck Institute for Psychological Research, University College London, London School Of Economics, UCLA, and NYU Stern Business School. He researches evolutionary psychology, sexuality, consumer behavior, behavior genetics, intelligence, personality, creativity, humor, and mental disorders. He's a long ass bio. He has over a 110 academic publications that's given over 200 invited talks in 16 countries. Sorry. Sorry. I'm laughing. His research has been featured in nature, science. He's well, his feature is featured everywhere like you look. Jeffrey, it's so good to have you on the Psychology Podcast finally. It's it's great to be on. Yeah. We've we've, been kinda kicking around a lot of the these ideas for a long time. You were, a contributor to that Mating Intelligence volume long time ago. So, you know, we've been pals and and colleagues for for ages, and it's great to finally be on your show. I have so much to talk about. When I was doing prep for this, I was looking in the archives at a lot of your older work, and I was able to start to see these larger patterns of and threads and and and that have weaved through your career. And it's gonna be very, very interesting to talk to you about this and also discuss things we might not agree on. But I don't think it'll get too too too, you know, in the Venn diagram, like, non overlapping. But okay. So I wanna just start off by talking about the ideas in the mating mind because you're approaching a ten year anniversary. Is that correct on that book? It's actually a twentieth anniversary. Twenty? Oh my gosh. We're all right. I know. It's crazy. So, yeah, twenty years ago, I published this crazy book called The Mating Mind, How Sexual Choice Shaped the Evolution of Human Nature, which I wrote in the late nineties, and it was based on my original Stanford PhD that I wrote way back in sort of '90 through '94. So it's it's ideas that have been been out there for a while. So that book had a lot to do with signaling theory. And signaling theory seems …
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