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PEL Presents PvI#108: Guess Who's Coming to Christmas Dinner... Lawrence Ware!

51 min episode · 2 min read
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Guess Who's Coming

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51 min

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2 min

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Relationships, Software Development, Product & Tech Trends

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Key Takeaways

  • Religious Counseling Approach: Ware spends the first 10 sessions with LGBTQ clients dismantling the false belief that humility requires self-debasement, teaching them they can be simultaneously humble and confident in their God-given identity and worth.
  • Public Philosophy Strategy: Academic philosophical articles reach only 5-10 readers while public-facing philosophical analysis reaches thousands. Ware abandoned traditional PhD publishing to write film criticism and cultural commentary that brings philosophical thinking to mass audiences.
  • Film Criticism Framework: A genuinely black film requires black director, writer, and producers throughout production. By this standard, beloved films like The Color Purple fail the test despite their cultural significance, revealing how white gatekeeping shapes black storytelling.
  • Knowledge Transmission Methods: Written philosophical texts function as hieroglyphics without context, while one-on-one counseling and live performance allow real-time adjustment to what each person needs to hear, making relationship-based teaching fundamentally more effective than books alone.

What It Covers

Lawrence Ware discusses his journey from Southern Baptist preacher to film critic, his counseling work with LGBTQ individuals seeking religious acceptance, and the tension between academic philosophy and public writing.

Key Questions Answered

  • Religious Counseling Approach: Ware spends the first 10 sessions with LGBTQ clients dismantling the false belief that humility requires self-debasement, teaching them they can be simultaneously humble and confident in their God-given identity and worth.
  • Public Philosophy Strategy: Academic philosophical articles reach only 5-10 readers while public-facing philosophical analysis reaches thousands. Ware abandoned traditional PhD publishing to write film criticism and cultural commentary that brings philosophical thinking to mass audiences.
  • Film Criticism Framework: A genuinely black film requires black director, writer, and producers throughout production. By this standard, beloved films like The Color Purple fail the test despite their cultural significance, revealing how white gatekeeping shapes black storytelling.
  • Knowledge Transmission Methods: Written philosophical texts function as hieroglyphics without context, while one-on-one counseling and live performance allow real-time adjustment to what each person needs to hear, making relationship-based teaching fundamentally more effective than books alone.

Notable Moment

Ware reveals that appearing on The Partially Examined Life podcast sparked his decade-long journey away from traditional church ministry, demonstrating how a single conversation can catalyze profound personal transformation when it gives permission to question previously unexamined beliefs.

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Episode Transcript

This is philosophy versus improv where two sages try to teach each other a thing or two, and maybe you, the audience, get something out of it as well. Why, happy holidays. This is Mark Lintonmeyer, your festive aperture on philosophy. Ho ho ho. We hope all of your meals are delicious and your mashed potatoes are buttery. This is Barry. I am bringing the improvisational energy, and we are joined today by Lawrence Ware, and I was not told to come up with something clever. So I am here, and I am a black man coming to your Christmas day. Shocker. Surprising. You weren't expecting this to happen. You got your improvisational warm up right away, Lawrence. We got you right in there. I just noticed your headphones. Your headphones are delightful. I like your headphones quite a bit. Aren't they fun? I mean, I've been on here before. I should've known. But, no, I did not have anything clever. So hi, guys. I'm here. But guess what, Lawrence? What's that? You are the clever. So whatever you say and whatever you do will be clever because it comes from you. I think that is absolutely not true. But thank you so much. That is very kind. Very kind, but it's not true. So should we act out a modern, rendition of Guess Who's Coming to Dinner, the 1967 film? Right? Okay. Let's go ahead and stop there. Let's go ahead and stop there. I never saw it, so I don't know. I think Let's just stop. Let's stop. I think he's a lovely man, darling. He's very intelligent. He's very dashing and handsome. And, darling, you can marry whoever you want just as long as my baby's happy. Okay. Well Okay. So think of Get Out, but, like, fifty years before. Like, that is exactly what Guess Who's Coming Home dinner is. Well, Lauren, I never thought of it till you said it, but it holy shit is. It is. It's exactly what it is. Oh my gosh. I'm crying. Minus the weird stuff at the end with, you know, swapping brains and all that kind of stuff. Gosh. You're so that. Right. But, well, it it's Get Out. That's exactly what that movie is. But it's a great film. It's really fun. I I enjoyed the film, but it's it's Get Out. Is it a Christmas tradition? No. It's not a Christmas tradition. I don't know what what holiday he's coming home for dinner. Mary, do you know what what holiday he's coming home? It might be Christmas. Is it Christmas? I don't think it's Christmas. What do you what question's being asked of me? Okay. So when when Cindy Coppier shows up, what holiday is it? It's like summer or something. Because I remember it's all like, it's been so long since I've seen it, but I don't think that it's Christmas. I don't remember there being snow. I don't think it's Christmas. Well, I I …

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