Become So Disciplined It Scares Them

Welcome to today's episode of the mindset mentor podcast. I am your host, Rob Dial. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so you never miss another episode. I put out episodes four times a week to help you learn and grow and improve yourself. So if that's what you're into, hit that subscribe button. Join me every single episode. Today, I'm gonna be talking about how to become extremely disciplined because let me ask you a question. If I followed you around for thirty days and I wrote down every promise that you made to yourself, something like I'm gonna start tomorrow or I'm gonna go to the gym today or I'm gonna wake up early tomorrow or I'm gonna finally start that business or I'm gonna start doing that habit. How many of those promises would actually happen? Because here's the part that most people don't really think about. Every time that you make a promise to yourself and you break it, your brain updates a belief about who you are. And that belief becomes something like I'm somebody who doesn't follow through. And once that belief is instilled inside of your brain, discipline becomes almost impossible. Not because there's something wrong with you, not because you're lazy, but because your brain doesn't trust you anymore based off of all of the data in your past. And so most people think that discipline is about, like, willpower and motivation and grit. You've gotta force yourself. You gotta push yourself. Yeah. That can be part of discipline, but really discipline is psychological more than it's anything else. Like the deeper psychological mechanism behind it is something that's called self consistency theory. And so there's a psychologist named Daryl Bem who proposed that humans infer who they are by watching their own behavior as if you're a person looking from the outside and watching what you do. And so in other words, your brain doesn't just decide who you are out of nowhere. It basically observes you. It observes everything that you do, everything that you say, everything that you don't do, and then it concludes who you must be. And so if you repeatedly watch yourself procrastinate and quit and delay and break commitments and not follow through and scroll when you should be building, your brain forms the identity of like, hey, this is just the type of person that I am. I am the type of person who says they're gonna do amazing things and then they find themselves scrolling on the couch instead. And once that identity forms, your identity of what you think you are, the craziest part about it is that your brain will actually try to protect it. Which means when you look at discipline, discipline isn't really hard because like you're weak or because of who your parents were or because of the way that you raised. Discipline is hard because your brain is defending your current identity. …