Most Replayed Moment: How To Be Charismatic and Gain the Edge in Any Room - Charlie Houpert

Number six. Number six. We've said this one before. I go first in humanizing the interaction. Humanizing the interaction? Yes. Which is to say, whenever you're with a group of people, there is an expected social norm. Right? And it is usually less than people wish that it was. It's the thing that you described earlier as I wish that my employees would get to what's really going on. And it's the ability to be the first one, like I told the story about my brother, to crack the joke about the dragon name tag. Right? And that that made everybody in the event funnier. They all now they all wanna crack jokes, and they all wanna be playful. It's the ability to give a compliment first. Sometimes people are afraid that it'll disrupt their status if they're too complimentary. And we did talk about how at the beginning of an interaction, it's useful to to establish fun, trust, and respect, but then feel free to pour it on. Right? Yeah. Yeah. Compliments, and then vulnerability. Right? Going first, sharing the vulnerable thing. There's a fine line, of course, between trauma dumping and just outpouring without checking if the other person is with you and wanting to go there with you. But, yeah, to to dive into the thing that is unsettled in you or that hurts or that you're working on and you're not sure about, man, we go there first. It's like the room transforms around that. It's like everyone's like, oh, me too. Yeah. Yeah. I'm also struggling. Yeah. I also wish we could laugh more. Yeah. I also am really I love that person's sense of style, but didn't wanna be weird and say so. So when you go first in humanizing the interaction, it it is it is the essence of leadership. Sharing your imperfections. Mhmm. I saw this in one of your videos. That's kind of what you're talking about there. Right? It's being willing to show the chinks in your own armor. Yes. It is. I think a lot of people like me have an idea that charisma is looking like someone else that they admire. It is and and they don't know that person's internal dialogue. Right? They don't know all the internal question is going on inside of them. And when instead you can start with where you are, which so people will ask me, how do I deal with anxiety? And one of the things that I've said, and I've done it a handful of times on this podcast, is speak to it. Like, no. I felt nervous when I was coming in here. Like, if the thing comes up inside of you and it feels like you can't say it, give it a risk. Say it. It often creates a depth of connection that that you wouldn't be anticipating. What about humor? Being funny? Being funny? So we haven't talked about this, but there's, I think about charismatic types …