340 | Rebecca Newberger Goldstein on What Matters and Why It Matters
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Key Takeaways
- ✓The Mattering Definition: Mattering means deserving attention, combining normative judgment with biological necessity. Humans uniquely question whether they deserve the excessive attention they pay themselves, creating an existential need to justify their lives through chosen projects that make self-attention feel warranted and meaningful.
- ✓Four Mattering Strategies: People pursue mattering through transcendent beliefs (religious purpose), social connection (intimate relationships or fame), heroic striving (excellence in intellectual, artistic, or ethical domains), or competitive superiority (zero-sum status seeking). Understanding someone's strategy reveals their core motivations and potential conflicts with others.
- ✓Entropy and Self-Justification: Life itself resists entropy by maintaining order against thermodynamic decay. Good mattering projects align with this counterentropic force by creating order through knowledge, justice, beauty, or fairness. Bad mattering projects (invasion, manipulation, exploitation) increase disorder and damage others while pursuing self-importance.
- ✓The Universalization Problem: People naturally assume their mattering strategy should apply universally—whether fashion, weightlifting, or academic achievement. This urge to universalize creates political and social conflict when diverse mattering strategies collide, as each person stakes their life's meaning on their chosen path being objectively correct.
- ✓Depression as Mattering Failure: William James contemplated suicide despite supportive relationships because he lacked a viable mattering project beyond social connection. Depression often stems from feeling unworthy of one's own attention, creating psychological paralysis. Finding the right mattering project—not just social belonging—proves essential for mental health.
What It Covers
Rebecca Newberger Goldstein explores how humans uniquely need to feel they matter—both to themselves and others—examining four distinct mattering strategies, their biological origins in entropy resistance, and how this instinct drives both human flourishing and political division.
Key Questions Answered
- •The Mattering Definition: Mattering means deserving attention, combining normative judgment with biological necessity. Humans uniquely question whether they deserve the excessive attention they pay themselves, creating an existential need to justify their lives through chosen projects that make self-attention feel warranted and meaningful.
- •Four Mattering Strategies: People pursue mattering through transcendent beliefs (religious purpose), social connection (intimate relationships or fame), heroic striving (excellence in intellectual, artistic, or ethical domains), or competitive superiority (zero-sum status seeking). Understanding someone's strategy reveals their core motivations and potential conflicts with others.
- •Entropy and Self-Justification: Life itself resists entropy by maintaining order against thermodynamic decay. Good mattering projects align with this counterentropic force by creating order through knowledge, justice, beauty, or fairness. Bad mattering projects (invasion, manipulation, exploitation) increase disorder and damage others while pursuing self-importance.
- •The Universalization Problem: People naturally assume their mattering strategy should apply universally—whether fashion, weightlifting, or academic achievement. This urge to universalize creates political and social conflict when diverse mattering strategies collide, as each person stakes their life's meaning on their chosen path being objectively correct.
- •Depression as Mattering Failure: William James contemplated suicide despite supportive relationships because he lacked a viable mattering project beyond social connection. Depression often stems from feeling unworthy of one's own attention, creating psychological paralysis. Finding the right mattering project—not just social belonging—proves essential for mental health.
Notable Moment
Goldstein traces the word matter to ancient translators who used mother to describe Aristotelian substance, encoding the belief that women exist as passive receptacles. This etymology reveals how gender hierarchy became embedded in our fundamental vocabulary for describing both physical reality and human significance.
Episode Transcript
Hello, everyone. Welcome to the Mindscape podcast. I'm your host, Sean Carroll. Some of you might know that back in 2012, I put together a small symposium in Stockbridge, Massachusetts called Moving Naturalism Forward. The idea being that naturalism is as opposed to theism. Naturalism being the view that the universe is just stuff obeying the laws of physics, that there's no extra supernatural deities or demigods or evil spirits or good spirits pushing us around and affecting our lives or giving us guidance or anything like that. The reason why I wanted to have a symposium on moving naturalism forward is that especially at that time, 2012, there was still a lot of public discussion about atheism versus religion. And the public discussion was, it took different forms from different directions, but a lot of it was, you know, the atheistic side, the naturalistic side, just explaining how bad religion was in various ways. And I was on that side, but I always felt that that was the easy part of the whole discussion to have. We needed to not only discuss why the world is naturalistic at heart, but all of the problems with naturalism. All the not reasons to disbelieve it, but the unanswered questions that we really needed to address. Indeed, I now teach a philosophy course at Hopkins on, philosophical naturalism, which every week we discuss a different question, puzzle, issue that naturalism has to think about. So we got a lot of great people together there. You can look it up online if you want the full roster of participants. It was a a high powered group, including a number of former Mindscape guests like Alex Rosenberg, Richard Dawkins, Daniel Dennett. Who else? Simon Dadao was there, David Pappell, a bunch of people whose names you would recognize. Jan eleven. And one of the best, most important, I thought, participants is today's guest, Rebecca Neuburger Goldstein was there. And the reason why Rebecca was so great in that particular environment where we're just having casual conversations about deep and important ideas is that she, as we'll mention in this podcast, sort of started out her college career wanting to be a physicist, later realized that being a philosopher was an even better fit for what she cared about. And then even later than that, realized that she actually wanted to be a novelist, as well as someone who thought deeply about philosophy and physics and so forth. So through her career, Rebecca has gone back and forth writing about both philosophy and writing fiction. And at that meeting in 2012, what she was really interested in was mattering. That is to say, what does it mean to say that something matters to us or even more importantly that we matter in some broad sense. You can matter to other people. You can matter to ourselves. If you're not a naturalist, you might matter in God's eyes for that matter. And this is obviously one …
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