Is Your Relationship … OK?

Hi. I'm Wendy Zuckerman, and you're listening to Science Versus. All over the Internet, people are doling out advice about your relationship. These are the nine things you need to know about love. You figure, let me try to make it work. You're wasting your time. There's advice about all kinds of relationship things, like people saying, if you're in a fight with your partner, here's the things you need to be doing. And it kinda feels like if you don't follow their advice, you'll be breaking up before someone can say, why do you keep restacking the dishwasher? See, psychologists say the strongest predictor of a lasting relationship isn't how well you avoid conflict, it's how well you repair after conflict. If you keep getting into the same dumb fights with your partner, please, I'm begging you to do this. Here's how you can repair any fight in three easy steps. I've watched video after video about red flags. Signs that this person that maybe you thought was great actually isn't. Have you ever looked back and thought, I really should have seen that red flag sooner. If she's doing these three things, Ro, she's cut off. If he has a girl best friend, keep your goddamn eye out. You're not being loved. You're being controlled. That's a huge red flag. And while some of what people are saying online seems reasonable enough, some of it kinda seems terrible. So today on the show, rather than getting our relationship advice from some rando on the Internet, we're gonna get it from scientists. Because there have been these amazing scientific studies that, in some cases, follow couples for years. And using that research, we're gonna find out, one, what is the best way to fight with your partner and how important is this? Two, what are the science backed red flags in a relationship? And as part of this, we are going to talk a bit about what can happen when a partner becomes controlling or even violent. And three, if you are in an unsafe relationship, can your partner change? Or will things only get worse? When it comes to relationships, we all want to know if You're wasting your time. And science is gonna help us get there. Science Versus is coming up just after the break. For adults with Crohn's disease or ulcerative colitis symptoms, every choice matters. Tremfya offers self injection or intravenous infusion from the start. Tremfya is administered as injections under the skin or infusions through a vein every four weeks, followed by injections under the skin every four or eight weeks. If your doctor decides that you can self inject Tremfya, proper training is required. TREMFYA is a prescription medicine used to treat adults with moderately to severely active Crohn's disease and adults with moderately to severely active ulcerative colitis. Serious allergic reactions and increased risk of infections and liver problems may occur. Before treatment, your doctor should check you for infections and …