Why Cooking is Caregiving, with Chef Hillary Sterling | Better in Person
Episode
42 min
Read time
2 min
Topics
Career Growth, Productivity, Leadership
AI-Generated Summary
Key Takeaways
- ✓Sensory-based cooking: Sterling trains kitchen staff to cook by sound, touch, and smell rather than relying solely on thermometers or timers. She has cooks close their eyes to listen to pasta in the pan and teaches lemon-squeezing by hand to maintain physical connection with ingredients — arguing that sensory engagement produces more consistent, intuitive results than instrument-dependent methods alone.
- ✓Deliberate skill mastery: When Sterling overcooked 125 pork tenderloins on her first night on sauté at Mesa Grill, her chef gave her seven days to practice before her next shift. She spent that week repeatedly searing and monitoring the meat until she could identify doneness visually. This focused repetition — not instruction — produced lasting competence and became her model for teaching others.
- ✓Restaurant procurement negotiation: Sterling negotiates food costs directly, using volume as leverage. She purchased 28,000 pounds of cipollini onions in one year and used that figure to solicit competing bids from multiple suppliers. For a 50-pound tuna order, she contacted every fish vendor simultaneously, waited for responses, then negotiated down — a replicable approach for any high-volume recurring purchase.
- ✓Kitchen leadership without hierarchy: Sterling's management method follows a three-step sequence: explain why something is done a specific way, demonstrate how, then do it together with the cook. She intervenes immediately when she observes errors rather than waiting, framing corrections as teaching moments. This approach, she reports, results in cooks thanking her rather than feeling criticized or undermined.
- ✓Career identity over prestige: Sterling declined an offer to run Union Square Cafe — one of New York's most prestigious restaurant positions — because she determined the role would require her to maintain an established culinary identity rather than develop her own. She prioritized creative ownership over institutional prestige, a decision she credits with enabling the distinct voice she later built at Chisiamo.
What It Covers
Freakonomics Radio host Stephen Dubner interviews Hilary Sterling, executive chef at Union Square Hospitality Group's Chisiamo in New York City, exploring how she built a career around sensory-based cooking, kitchen leadership philosophy, restaurant economics, and her view that cooking is fundamentally an act of caregiving rather than craft.
Key Questions Answered
- •Sensory-based cooking: Sterling trains kitchen staff to cook by sound, touch, and smell rather than relying solely on thermometers or timers. She has cooks close their eyes to listen to pasta in the pan and teaches lemon-squeezing by hand to maintain physical connection with ingredients — arguing that sensory engagement produces more consistent, intuitive results than instrument-dependent methods alone.
- •Deliberate skill mastery: When Sterling overcooked 125 pork tenderloins on her first night on sauté at Mesa Grill, her chef gave her seven days to practice before her next shift. She spent that week repeatedly searing and monitoring the meat until she could identify doneness visually. This focused repetition — not instruction — produced lasting competence and became her model for teaching others.
- •Restaurant procurement negotiation: Sterling negotiates food costs directly, using volume as leverage. She purchased 28,000 pounds of cipollini onions in one year and used that figure to solicit competing bids from multiple suppliers. For a 50-pound tuna order, she contacted every fish vendor simultaneously, waited for responses, then negotiated down — a replicable approach for any high-volume recurring purchase.
- •Kitchen leadership without hierarchy: Sterling's management method follows a three-step sequence: explain why something is done a specific way, demonstrate how, then do it together with the cook. She intervenes immediately when she observes errors rather than waiting, framing corrections as teaching moments. This approach, she reports, results in cooks thanking her rather than feeling criticized or undermined.
- •Career identity over prestige: Sterling declined an offer to run Union Square Cafe — one of New York's most prestigious restaurant positions — because she determined the role would require her to maintain an established culinary identity rather than develop her own. She prioritized creative ownership over institutional prestige, a decision she credits with enabling the distinct voice she later built at Chisiamo.
Notable Moment
Sterling revealed that a scathing early review of her first head chef position — which she described as professionally devastating — turned out to be accurate when she reread it years later. The critic correctly identified that she was cooking American food without genuine connection to it, a realization that redirected her toward Italian cuisine.
Episode Transcript
This episode of Better in Person is presented by ChatGPT. Put ChatGPT to work on your most ambitious ideas and projects. Download the new ChatGPT desktop app today. Hey, there. It's Steven Dubner. This is the second episode of a new video interview show we've just launched called Better in Person. If you'd rather watch it, which I would suggest you do, that's what it was made for. It is on the Freakonomics YouTube channel. But we're also happy to provide this podcast version of Better in Person for your ears only. As always, thanks for listening. When people send back food, the whole rumor of a chef spitting, please. I've never seen it. No. And that's fucking stupid. Like, that like, come on. This is Better in Person with Stephen Dubner and Hilary Sterling. There aren't many things in this world that you absolutely need to survive and which also bring great pleasure. Food is one of them. For some people, it is so pleasurable to cook for others that they build a career out of it, but it is a relentlessly demanding way to make a living. I recently met a chef who doesn't seem to have lost the pleasure of cooking. Hilary Sterling is executive chef at Chisiamo, a big, successful, very loud kitchen in New York City. She was born and raised in Brooklyn, and she built her career in New York restaurants, like Bobby Flay's Mesa Grill and the Michelin starred Avoce. So when Hillary invited me into the kitchen at Chisiamo, I, of course, said yes, and I had barely finished saying hello before she threw me right into the fire. Cheers. Can you give me the torch, Chris? Can you give me your coat? Hey. Can you give me the torch? Hillary leads me over to the big wood fired oven and hands me the blow torch to start today's cook fire. Oh, I love a flamethrower. Ciciamo celebrates live fire Italian cooking, and fire is fun until it's not. Can I see your hands? How burned are you? I mean Not not No. The burn if you have burns, that means you're not paying attention. Do you remember that burn? I do. I remember all of them. Sterling points to a scar just above her right wrist. I mean, this one this one right here Yeah. It was in 2003. It was in the oven at Mesa Grill. Oh. Yeah. Yeah. This one. What were you making? I was reaching in the oven for my pork tenderloins Okay. And the guy next to me, Carlos. Yeah. We're both reaching in at the same time and I moved over so he could get his steak or whatever out of the oven and I hit inside there's like bars inside the oven. That's what that was. So you learned a very important lesson that day. Stopping so polite. Yeah. Yeah. Does it work? Does lateness work in a kitchen? I would think you have …
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