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This Quick Practice Will Make You Feel Lighter | Jay Michaelson

13 min episode · 2 min read

Episode

13 min

Read time

2 min

Topics

Health & Wellness, Relationships, Books & Authors

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Key Takeaways

  • Visualization over phrases: This loving kindness variation uses somatic imagery of golden light emanating from the heart center instead of verbal phrases like "may you be happy." The wordless approach prevents getting caught in mental stories about what would make someone happy or unhappy, keeping the practice less conceptual and more embodied.
  • Fake it until you make it: Begin by imagining a warm golden glow in your heart center even if it feels artificial or uncomfortable at first. The practice works through repetition regardless of initial skepticism—the act of visualizing loving kindness creates the actual feeling over time, making something from nothing through consistent imagination.
  • Light expands without depleting: The visualization teaches that extending compassion to more people strengthens rather than diminishes the feeling. As you progressively include loved ones, benefactors, neutral acquaintances, and difficult people in the golden light field, the warmth grows larger and more abundant rather than spreading thin across more recipients.
  • Progressive circle expansion: Start with someone easy to love like a close friend or pet, then systematically widen to benefactors and teachers, neutral people encountered daily, those with whom you have friction, nearby community members, and finally all beings. This gradual expansion builds capacity to hold compassion for increasingly challenging recipients.

What It Covers

Jay Michaelson guides a visualization-based loving kindness meditation that replaces traditional verbal phrases with imagery of golden light radiating from the heart center. The practice progressively extends compassion to loved ones, neutral people, difficult relationships, and all beings.

Key Questions Answered

  • Visualization over phrases: This loving kindness variation uses somatic imagery of golden light emanating from the heart center instead of verbal phrases like "may you be happy." The wordless approach prevents getting caught in mental stories about what would make someone happy or unhappy, keeping the practice less conceptual and more embodied.
  • Fake it until you make it: Begin by imagining a warm golden glow in your heart center even if it feels artificial or uncomfortable at first. The practice works through repetition regardless of initial skepticism—the act of visualizing loving kindness creates the actual feeling over time, making something from nothing through consistent imagination.
  • Light expands without depleting: The visualization teaches that extending compassion to more people strengthens rather than diminishes the feeling. As you progressively include loved ones, benefactors, neutral acquaintances, and difficult people in the golden light field, the warmth grows larger and more abundant rather than spreading thin across more recipients.
  • Progressive circle expansion: Start with someone easy to love like a close friend or pet, then systematically widen to benefactors and teachers, neutral people encountered daily, those with whom you have friction, nearby community members, and finally all beings. This gradual expansion builds capacity to hold compassion for increasingly challenging recipients.

Notable Moment

Michaelson reframes extending loving kindness to difficult people not as forgiveness or approval of their actions, but simply as wishing them freedom from suffering while maintaining necessary personal boundaries—separating compassion from judgment or evaluation of behavior.

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Episode Transcript

This is the 10% happier podcast. I'm Dan Harris. Happy Sunday, party people. How we doing? Today, we've got a guided meditation from my friend, Jay Michaelson, who's our teacher of the month for February over on the new app that we just launched, 10% with Dan Harris. Normally, you have to sign up for the app to get the meditations, but we're dropping this one for free. It's a loving kindness practice, but with a twist. Instead of phrases, you'll be working with a visualization here. Please do not worry if you find any of this stuff, barf tastic at first. As Jay says, just fake it until you make it. And the fascinating thing is even if you're skeptical, the way I was at first with this practice, it still works. I mentioned my new app. Just wanna quickly remind you, you can get it if you head on over to danharris.com. We've got a lot of stuff going on there, growing body of guided meditations from amazing teachers like Jay and also Joseph Goldstein, Sevene Selassie. I could go on. And we do weekly live video guided meditation and q and a sessions. Join the party. We'll get started with some meditation with Jay Michaelson right after this. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Sometimes it can feel like everybody else has it all together in their love lives, whether married, dating, or single. The truth is many of us are, still figuring it out and finding our way. And no matter where you are in your romance journey, therapy can help you find your way, help you determine what you want, what feels heavy, and how you can take some of the pressure off yourself. This issue of our romantic lives or lack thereof can be particularly a fraught in February, which is full of flowers and candy and stuffed animals and lots of talk about relationships and dating. And therapy can be a great way to work out your issues, whatever they are. I have found that individual therapy and couples counseling can be extremely helpful for me personally. BetterHelp has quality therapists who work according to a strict code of conduct and are fully licensed in The US. BetterHelp does the initial matching work for you so you can focus on your therapy goals. They give you a short questionnaire to help identify your needs and preferences. And then their, twelve plus years of experience and industry leading match fulfillment rate means they typically get it right the first time. And if you're not happy with your match, you could switch to a different therapist at any time from their tailored recommendations. Sign up and get 10% off at betterhelp.com/happier. That's betterhelp.com/happier. I mentioned this a few weeks ago on the show, but I'm gonna repeat it here. As an insomniac, it is very important for me to have a nightly routine, a wind down routine. And there's a new aspect of my nightly …

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