George Saunders On: Getting Un-Stuck, Calming the Inner Critic, and Building Empathy Without Becoming a Chump
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Key Takeaways
- ✓Warm Metacognition for Stuckness: When stuck in writing or life, step back to observe your mental state without judgment. Ask yourself how you're reading the situation today—are you overly critical or too generous? This creates distance from reactive thinking. Saunders applies this by questioning his manuscript daily, accepting all answers including fatal ones, which paradoxically reduces anxiety and increases productivity by 180 blank pages at a time.
- ✓Empathy as Strategic Tool: Understanding an opponent's internal logic makes you more effective, not weaker. Spend time reconstructing why someone holds their position—their fears, conditioning, predispositions—before acting. This doesn't require agreement or passivity. Like a mechanic diagnosing a car before fixing it, empathy provides tactical information. You can be fiercely opposed to someone's actions while understanding their psychological machinery, which actually sharpens your response.
- ✓Revision as Reconsideration Practice: Writing functions as slowed-down life where you can observe judgment formation in real time. Chekhov's stories work as brief reconsideration machines—they present information that makes you aware of your rush to judge before you actually need to decide. This trains the mind to wait, gather more data, and notice when facile judgment closes off understanding. The skill transfers from reading to daily interactions when practiced consistently.
- ✓Predestination and Reduced Judgment: Nobody chose their initial cognitive wiring, reading ability, work ethic, or capacity for change. These predispositions arrived unbidden. Recognizing this absolute view—that people are inevitable products of genetics plus environment—reduces harsh judgment of others and excessive self-praise. The relative view still operates: you have preferences, boundaries, and must act. But the absolute view softens reactivity and creates space for more skillful responses to difficult people.
- ✓Stretching Prevents Creative Calcification: After 67 years, familiar patterns dominate consciousness—same jokes, same thoughts, same moves. Combat this accretion by choosing projects you think you cannot write, forcing neglected abilities to activate. Pick something that creates anticipatory frolic mixed with impossibility. The harder the middle section, the greater the problem your subconscious is solving. This principle applies beyond writing: audacious projects prove vitality and access unexplored quadrants of capability.
What It Covers
Dan Harris interviews novelist George Saunders about his new book Vigil, exploring techniques for escaping creative stuckness, managing self-criticism through warm metacognition, and developing empathy without sacrificing boundaries. Saunders shares how writing about mortality and the afterlife informs present-moment living, and explains his revision process as a practice in reconsideration and mental flexibility.
Key Questions Answered
- •Warm Metacognition for Stuckness: When stuck in writing or life, step back to observe your mental state without judgment. Ask yourself how you're reading the situation today—are you overly critical or too generous? This creates distance from reactive thinking. Saunders applies this by questioning his manuscript daily, accepting all answers including fatal ones, which paradoxically reduces anxiety and increases productivity by 180 blank pages at a time.
- •Empathy as Strategic Tool: Understanding an opponent's internal logic makes you more effective, not weaker. Spend time reconstructing why someone holds their position—their fears, conditioning, predispositions—before acting. This doesn't require agreement or passivity. Like a mechanic diagnosing a car before fixing it, empathy provides tactical information. You can be fiercely opposed to someone's actions while understanding their psychological machinery, which actually sharpens your response.
- •Revision as Reconsideration Practice: Writing functions as slowed-down life where you can observe judgment formation in real time. Chekhov's stories work as brief reconsideration machines—they present information that makes you aware of your rush to judge before you actually need to decide. This trains the mind to wait, gather more data, and notice when facile judgment closes off understanding. The skill transfers from reading to daily interactions when practiced consistently.
- •Predestination and Reduced Judgment: Nobody chose their initial cognitive wiring, reading ability, work ethic, or capacity for change. These predispositions arrived unbidden. Recognizing this absolute view—that people are inevitable products of genetics plus environment—reduces harsh judgment of others and excessive self-praise. The relative view still operates: you have preferences, boundaries, and must act. But the absolute view softens reactivity and creates space for more skillful responses to difficult people.
- •Stretching Prevents Creative Calcification: After 67 years, familiar patterns dominate consciousness—same jokes, same thoughts, same moves. Combat this accretion by choosing projects you think you cannot write, forcing neglected abilities to activate. Pick something that creates anticipatory frolic mixed with impossibility. The harder the middle section, the greater the problem your subconscious is solving. This principle applies beyond writing: audacious projects prove vitality and access unexplored quadrants of capability.
- •Elevation Through Inhabiting Others: Spending five seconds truly occupying another person's consciousness would be life-changing. You'd experience what your self actually is by contrast—the particular jail you've inhabited since birth. Fiction approximates this through deep character work. Saunders spent months inside a climate-denying oil executive's mind, generating unexpected warmth despite political opposition. This practice reveals how consciousness constructs reality and how different minds generate different phenomenological worlds.
Notable Moment
Saunders describes a childhood memory in Catholic school where a nun praised him for reading ability while criticizing another student. Watching that student cry, young Saunders realized he never checked a box in the womb choosing to be a good reader—it just happened. This recognition that we don't design our own capacities or even our work ethic became foundational to his understanding of empathy and judgment.
Episode Transcript
This is the Ten Percent Happier podcast. I'm Dan Harris. Hello, my fellow suffering beings. How we doing today? Today, I'm gonna talk to one of the greatest living novelists about how to get out of stuckness and self criticism, how to be less judgmental of yourself and other people, how to be empathic without being a chump, how empathy properly understood actually enhances your edge rather than eroding it, and how thinking and talking about the afterlife can improve your life right now. I always love talking to George Saunders. This is his third tour of duty on the show. Many of you are familiar with George, but real quick, he won the man Booker prize for his excellent novel, Lincoln in the Bardo. And he's back with a new novel called Vigil, which I have read, and it's excellent. George also teaches creative writing at Syracuse University and hosts Story Club, which is a popular substack where he analyzes classic short stories. Real quick before we dive in here, don't forget to check out my new app. It's called 10% with Dan Harris, and you can sign up at danharris.com. The most egotistical web address in the world. There's a free fourteen day trial if you wanna check out the app before you buy it. Let me just tell you though, we've got an amazing and growing library of guided meditations from amazing teachers, including people like Joseph Goldstein. We also do weekly live video meditation and Q and A sessions, so you can get your questions answered. And, we've set it up so that you can connect with your fellow meditators and, create relationships so you don't feel so alone in this weird thing called meditation. Okay. We'll get started with George Saunders right after this. It's a new year, colder days for many of us. So therefore, this is a moment where your winter wardrobe really has to be on point, really has to deliver. If you're craving a winter reset, start with pieces truly made to last season after season. Quince brings together premium materials, thoughtful design, and enduring quality, so you stay warm, you look sharp, and feel your best all season long. Quinte has everything you need. Men's Mongolian cashmere sweaters, I've got a bunch of those. Wool coats, leather and suede, outerwear that actually holds up to daily wear and still looks good. Each piece is made from premium materials by trusted factories that meet rigorous standards for craftsmanship and ethical production. By cutting out the middleman and traditional markups, Quince delivers the same quality as luxury brands, but at a fraction of the price. As I've told you before, I actually order this stuff on my own dime, even though I do get some free stuff because they're a sponsor. But I like them so much, I spend my own dough on Quince. I actually just recently made an order. I got a bunch of boring stuff like socks and underwear. …
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