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Calm Your Nervous System: Simple Daily Practices for When You're Wired, Hangry, or Too Busy to Rest | Nadia Narain & Katia Narain Phillips

55 min episode · 2 min read
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Nadia Narain,Katia Narain Phillips

Episode

55 min

Read time

2 min

Topics

Productivity, Health & Wellness, Psychology & Behavior

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Key Takeaways

  • ✓Glimmer Check-In: Counteract the brain's negativity bias by deliberately recalling a small positive sensory moment — a warm coffee cup, a pet, a stranger's smile — then scan the body for physical shifts like dropping shoulders or deepening breath. Practiced consistently, this trains the brain to spot glimmers automatically throughout the day.
  • ✓Jaw and Facial Tension Release: Pressing the tongue firmly into the inner cheek releases jaw fascia, which connects directly to neck and shoulder tension. Follow with fingertip massage along the jaw and cheekbone. This physical reset also returns attention to the body, interrupting the cognitive loops that keep the nervous system in a sympathetic, threat-scanning state.
  • ✓Shake It Off (30 seconds minimum): Standing and generating a gentle shaking motion from the feet upward — escalating to jumping and arm movement if possible — discharges excess stress energy the same way animals do post-threat. Even 10–30 seconds in a private space after conflict or tension produces a measurable shift in physical state and emotional tone.
  • ✓Wide Visual Field Reset: Narrowed focus — from screens or perceived threat — signals danger to the nervous system. Extending both arms forward, placing two fingers at eye level, then spreading them to the outer edges of peripheral vision deliberately widens the visual field, sending a safety signal that activates the parasympathetic rest-and-digest response within seconds.
  • ✓Boundary Capacity Check Before Committing: Before agreeing to any request, run through three internal questions: What is my current capacity? How will I feel doing this? How will I feel afterward? Practice saying no to low-stakes requests first to build the neural pathway. Saying yes when capacity is depleted drives the rushing and resentment cycle that keeps the nervous system dysregulated.

What It Covers

Yoga teacher Nadia Narain and somatic practitioner Katia Narain Phillips explain how the autonomic nervous system drives daily behavior, and present six concrete practices from their book *Glimmers* to build nervous system flexibility without requiring formal meditation or significant time commitment.

Key Questions Answered

  • •Glimmer Check-In: Counteract the brain's negativity bias by deliberately recalling a small positive sensory moment — a warm coffee cup, a pet, a stranger's smile — then scan the body for physical shifts like dropping shoulders or deepening breath. Practiced consistently, this trains the brain to spot glimmers automatically throughout the day.
  • •Jaw and Facial Tension Release: Pressing the tongue firmly into the inner cheek releases jaw fascia, which connects directly to neck and shoulder tension. Follow with fingertip massage along the jaw and cheekbone. This physical reset also returns attention to the body, interrupting the cognitive loops that keep the nervous system in a sympathetic, threat-scanning state.
  • •Shake It Off (30 seconds minimum): Standing and generating a gentle shaking motion from the feet upward — escalating to jumping and arm movement if possible — discharges excess stress energy the same way animals do post-threat. Even 10–30 seconds in a private space after conflict or tension produces a measurable shift in physical state and emotional tone.
  • •Wide Visual Field Reset: Narrowed focus — from screens or perceived threat — signals danger to the nervous system. Extending both arms forward, placing two fingers at eye level, then spreading them to the outer edges of peripheral vision deliberately widens the visual field, sending a safety signal that activates the parasympathetic rest-and-digest response within seconds.
  • •Boundary Capacity Check Before Committing: Before agreeing to any request, run through three internal questions: What is my current capacity? How will I feel doing this? How will I feel afterward? Practice saying no to low-stakes requests first to build the neural pathway. Saying yes when capacity is depleted drives the rushing and resentment cycle that keeps the nervous system dysregulated.

Notable Moment

The distinction between genuine rest and shutdown disguised as rest reframes common habits like scrolling, binge-watching, and online shopping. These states feel calming but are actually numbing mechanisms — the test is whether body awareness, breath sensation, and spatial grounding remain present or have disappeared entirely.

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Episode Transcript

Hello, everybody. Welcome to the Ten Percent Happier podcast. I'm your host, Dan Harris. As somebody who walks around with a hair trigger nervous system, constantly scanning for threats, anxious since sentience. I was very, very, very interested when I heard about these guests who you'll be hearing from today. We're gonna talk about simple ways to regulate your nervous system that you can integrate into your daily life. And said guests are Nadia Naren and Katya Naren Phillips. Nadia is a personal friend of mine. She's a long time yoga and breath work teacher. Her sister, who I'm meeting for the first time and I'm delighted about that, is a body worker and somatic practitioner. They have a new book, which is called Glimmers, Tiny Moments to Transform Your Life. Nadia and Katya, welcome both to the show. Hi, Dan. Thank you for having us. Nadia, let me start with you. But Katya, jump in I'm at any playing favorites. Right? But obviously, you just... There's no rules here. You can both jump in anytime you want. But one of the things you talk about in the book is kind of giving readers nervous system 101. Can you can you give us that, please? A lot of books about the nervous system are quite complicated, and they they keep you a little bit up in your head. And we had so many friends that were like, we didn't even know we had a nervous system. And so we wanted to write something that people could understand in all parts of their life experience. But also the title Glimmers is ways that you can help to create capacity in your nervous system, so that it's not that we want to stay calm all the time, it's that we want to create flexibility when life gets difficult, when things get challenging. We also can enjoy the parts of life that are enjoyable to live through. Katya, what is the nervous system? Great, I got that one. The nervous system is really complex, but the part of the nervous system that we're talking about with glimmers and triggers and all of that is the autonomic nervous system. So things that are happening automatically, your breath, your heartbeat. So say when we're children and we have something happen to us, your nervous system will automatically protect you. So everything is happening to protect you. But as we're getting older, some of those protective mechanisms aren't really working for us anymore. So we can kind of stay stuck in old nervous system patterns, which when something comes up in our adult life, could be seen as a trigger. And that trigger is usually something from the past. Have you ever heard the expression if it's hysterical, it's historical? Yes, Very much. Yeah. And a lot of that comes up especially in relationship. You know, when you're in intimate relationship, a lot of the stuff that does come up that can be hysterical is usually …

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