How To Forgive & Let Go of Your Past with Sage Robbins & Mary B
Episode
28 min
Read time
2 min
Topics
Investing, Psychology & Behavior
AI-Generated Summary
Key Takeaways
- ✓Humanness as foundation: Recognize all people operate from their life context and conditioning. Before judging actions, consider trading life stories with the person who hurt you—often their behavior becomes understandable when viewed through their experiences and pain.
- ✓Resistance signals unforgiveness: Notice when you feel constriction or resistance toward someone or a past event. This physical and emotional closing indicates you remain bound to the story. Forgiveness means choosing openness over resistance, regardless of receiving an apology from others.
- ✓Identity versus behavior: Separate what someone did from who they are as a person. Making actions into permanent identity blocks forgiveness. Everyone cycles through conscious and unconscious states, kind and cruel moments, victim and villain roles throughout their human experience.
- ✓Acceptance precedes forgiveness: Accept people as complete humans—their goodness and their mess—the same way you want acceptance for your totality. When you acknowledge your own capacity for unconscious harm, extending grace to others becomes natural rather than forced or conditional.
What It Covers
Sage Robbins and Mary B explore forgiveness as a pathway to inner freedom, examining how letting go of past hurts, understanding human fallibility, and accepting context behind actions creates mental well-being and personal liberation.
Key Questions Answered
- •Humanness as foundation: Recognize all people operate from their life context and conditioning. Before judging actions, consider trading life stories with the person who hurt you—often their behavior becomes understandable when viewed through their experiences and pain.
- •Resistance signals unforgiveness: Notice when you feel constriction or resistance toward someone or a past event. This physical and emotional closing indicates you remain bound to the story. Forgiveness means choosing openness over resistance, regardless of receiving an apology from others.
- •Identity versus behavior: Separate what someone did from who they are as a person. Making actions into permanent identity blocks forgiveness. Everyone cycles through conscious and unconscious states, kind and cruel moments, victim and villain roles throughout their human experience.
- •Acceptance precedes forgiveness: Accept people as complete humans—their goodness and their mess—the same way you want acceptance for your totality. When you acknowledge your own capacity for unconscious harm, extending grace to others becomes natural rather than forced or conditional.
Notable Moment
Sage describes Tony Robbins' practice of vulnerability off-stage, noting his willingness to apologize and share his misses with tears enables his powerful on-stage work. His inner work and humility create the foundation for helping others transform.
Episode Transcript
Hi. Thanks for listening to the Tony Robbins podcast. This is just a quick note about this episode in case you'd rather watch and see the video of this conversation. That's found at youtube.com tony robbins live. You'd like to listen? You're in the right place. Okay. Here's Toni. Hi, Mary. Hello, Sage Robbins. Hi, Mary. Well, welcome once again to the Tony Robbins podcast. For those of you listening, thank you for continuing to tune in, not only to this episode, but thank you for tuning in to yourself. I trust that that's what's guided you here now. Well, Sage, it's just you and I today. It is indeed. As you may notice, Tony's not here, but we're gonna talk a whole lot about him. Yes. And the beautiful miracle and power of forgiveness. We're so happy to be back with our audience. And this episode will be a special one. This will be a big one. This will encompass a lot of the kind of pulp of life. Mhmm. Our concept was forgiveness, which then breaks into, how to say I'm sorry into apologies, atonement, making amends, and then the sort of upshot emotions of those, like guilt, shame, anger, resentment. All of those are part of the conversation. And then layer that on top of that some of the, modern day phrases, phenomena that we all just use so casually now that really are only recent things like cancel culture. Yeah. I think that has a huge piece. That's that you when you talk about forgiveness, that's some of the implications that we're dealing with. Mhmm. And then, of course, baby reindeer. I wanna talk about baby reindeer in this conversation. So Sage Robins, what is when I say some of those words, forgiveness at its heart, what what state does that put you in? Where where do you what does that conjure up for you? Gosh. Well, I love that we're having this conversation because I believe it's it's from my own experience you know when I look at the world stage right now and what's transpiring and even, the mental health phenomena, I don't know if that is the right word, but there is certainly a lot of attention, on mental health and mental well-being. It is my experience, that through forgiveness, is a path to coming home. And so you can look at forgiveness, at least I do, is one of the pathways from bound to unbound within. And that from that place, life is all possible, because we are in a natural we are in alignment, you know, with our true nature with love. Forgiving is I I, you know, forgiveness is it it's it's born out of love. It's it's, aligned with our nature which is love. That's true. Well, that's beautiful. And again, just as we kind of get into the flow of the conversation, I would invite our audience to take a moment and just think about whether it's something …
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