Expand Your Identity | Featuring Tony Robbins, Sage and Mary B.

Hi. Thanks for listening to the Tony Robbins podcast. This is just a quick note about this episode. In case you'd rather watch and see the video of this conversation, which includes behind the scenes footage with Tony, Sage, and me, Mary b, go ahead and click on the expand your identity video that's on Tony's YouTube channel, and that's found at youtube.combackslashtonyrobbins live. If you'd like to listen, you're in the right place. Okay. Here's Tony. Hello, John. Tony Robbins. Come on in. Uh-oh. Halo. Hello. Hi. How are you? Hey, everybody. It's Tony Robbins. Welcome to Tony Robbins podcast. I get to be here in person for a little bit. Listen, I am really excited about the subject that we have today and also the guests that we have. The subject is the most important subject I know of to controlling human behavior. If you've ever asked yourself, why did I try to make a change and try and try and not really succeed? You're going to understand the answer by the end of this. And more importantly, if you want to create lasting change, the tool that we're going to talk about today is the tool that creates lasting change. And And if it's used improperly, it also gets you stuck. And the term or the tool we're talking about is the power of identity. Now, what is identity? Well, we all identify ourselves in different ways. Who are you? Are you a conservative person, an aggressive person? Are you quiet? Are you outgoing? There's so many ways that we define ourselves. And identity is just the culmination of the beliefs you have about who you are. But those beliefs control how you think, how you feel, what you perceive, how you interact with people, what you're willing to do, not willing to do. In fact, I'd submit to you that after forty five years of working with people in a 195 countries all over this planet, from the most successful to the most challenged, the single most important element if I wanna understand what's driving that person is to understand how they define themselves. Because, hear me now, the most powerful force in the human personality is the need to stay consistent with how we define ourselves. And, you know, if you think of someone who's having, quote, an identity crisis, what is that? They turn a certain age, and they quickly question everything they had accepted. A belief is something you feel absolutely certain about. You don't believe something if you start to question it. You produce doubt. And so sometimes there are certain stages of life where someone suddenly goes out and has this identity crisis, and they buy a a sports car or whatever the case may be, and they change their hair and they do everything else. But the what what's really happening is they're trying to redefine themselves, having defined themselves a long time ago. And we all have these ways …