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509: Questions to Ask Yourself During This Crisis

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Productivity, Relationships, Psychology & Behavior

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Key Takeaways

  • Personal check-ins: Start every team meeting with a personal minute where each person shares what's happening in their family and city life. This releases anxiety, creates human connection, and provides context that helps colleagues support each other better.
  • Reframing exhaustion: When feeling tired, ask yourself if you're actually bored rather than exhausted. This mental reframe creates different possibilities and solutions by spotting the situation from a new angle, potentially revealing the true source of your fatigue and opening alternative responses.
  • Deeper questioning: Replace surface questions like how are you doing with what are you worried about to unlock genuine conversation. This shift prompts people to share real concerns they otherwise suppress, enabling meaningful connection and allowing worries to be externalized rather than internalized.
  • Luck versus gratitude: Focus on feeling lucky rather than only practicing gratitude. Luck removes you from the equation entirely, acknowledging good circumstances without attachment to your role in creating them, while gratitude often includes things you had a hand in achieving, creating different psychological distance.

What It Covers

Hiten Shah and Steli Efti explore specific questions to ask yourself and others during crisis periods to manage exhaustion, anxiety, and uncertainty while maintaining connection and perspective during challenging times.

Key Questions Answered

  • Personal check-ins: Start every team meeting with a personal minute where each person shares what's happening in their family and city life. This releases anxiety, creates human connection, and provides context that helps colleagues support each other better.
  • Reframing exhaustion: When feeling tired, ask yourself if you're actually bored rather than exhausted. This mental reframe creates different possibilities and solutions by spotting the situation from a new angle, potentially revealing the true source of your fatigue and opening alternative responses.
  • Deeper questioning: Replace surface questions like how are you doing with what are you worried about to unlock genuine conversation. This shift prompts people to share real concerns they otherwise suppress, enabling meaningful connection and allowing worries to be externalized rather than internalized.
  • Luck versus gratitude: Focus on feeling lucky rather than only practicing gratitude. Luck removes you from the equation entirely, acknowledging good circumstances without attachment to your role in creating them, while gratitude often includes things you had a hand in achieving, creating different psychological distance.

Notable Moment

One host realized his mother always answered I'm fine when asked how she was doing, but when he switched to asking what she worried about, she opened up about thirty minutes of genuine concerns regarding family members he knew nothing about.

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Episode Transcript

Everybody. This is Tony Afti. And this is Heaton Shah. And today on the startup chat, we're gonna talk about good questions to ask yourself during these uncertain times. I think we like talking about more than just sales and marketing. We just wanna bullshit and chat about business and life, and hopefully while we're doing that, provide a lot of value to people. The world's best business podcast. Oh. Oh, shit. We did it. For people trying to get shit and done. Yeah. We don't wanna give you feedback that's bullshit. And we want you to do your best. So I think this is a important topic. I will tell you why, and get personal, but we always get personal on this anyway. Mhmm. So I had a friend text me the other day, and he's like, text me something of the nature of, like, I don't know, man. I'm just tired today. He's, like, I feel like I'm tired every night. And it's, like, a a friend of mine that wouldn't tell anybody else that. And I texted him, and and I'm someone who really wouldn't tell anybody else that either. Yes. I'm sorry. I I told him, you know what? Me too. And then I texted him, and this was, like, the night before last, literally, like, very fresh. And I texted him last night, and I'm like, you know what? I feel the same today as well. And he's like, yeah. Me too. So he's someone like you, Steli, where it's like, I'll tell him I'll tell him anything privately, and, you know, we'll chitchat publicly sometimes and stuff like that. And, like, I understand where he's coming from when he says it to me because he's resilient. He's seen lots of different things in the past. Like, you know, it's like someone like you. Right? Like, we we just have this sort of common either experiences or way of dealing with the world. And so I've just been wondering, like, how do you like, of course, it's okay to feel that. But how do you, like, ask yourself questions to just recognize when you might just be exhausted and there's no good answer? Because I can't tell you why I'm exhausted at night. I he can't explain why he is either. And there's just a lot going on in the world. Yeah. It's interesting. It's not just a lot going on in the world in the abstract. I think that when you go through a time like this where anxiety is so universal and uncertainty is so universal, it's literally in every interaction. Like, it's in the hello, goodbye. It's in the you know, it's even in small interaction that seem harmless and positive. The underlying energy exchange between all humans right now in a very in a in a varying degrees is always no matter what we are saying, we're also probably are communicating. I'm kind of anxious. I'm stressed. I'm worried. I feel …

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