1361: Creep's Snaps Turn Tide on Body Positivity Ride | Feedback Friday

What It Covers

Jordan Harbinger and Gabriel Mizrahi tackle three listener dilemmas on Feedback Friday: a woman whose decade-old naked bike ride photos were posted on a revenge porn site by a serial stalker, a father navigating religious education at a Christian school while holding agnostic beliefs, and a man entangled in a ten-month relationship with a partner whose alcohol addiction escalated into theft, assault, and chaos.

Key Questions Answered

• •Revenge Porn Legal Strategy: Victims of nonconsensual photo exposure should file police reports across multiple jurisdictions simultaneously — including where photos were taken, where the victim lives, and where the perpetrator operates. The FBI holds cyberstalking jurisdiction and carries resources local agencies lack. Organizing evidence into a single, easily digestible binder significantly increases the likelihood investigators will pursue the case rather than defer to another jurisdiction.
• •John Doe Petition Tactic: When a perpetrator's identity is unknown, filing a John Doe civil lawsuit enables attorneys to issue subpoenas compelling websites and platforms to release server logs, IP addresses, and account data. This legal mechanism can expose the perpetrator's identity, allowing victims to name them in the suit and simultaneously hand that information to law enforcement — a dual-track approach unavailable through police reports alone.
• •Multi-Victim Coordination: When a single perpetrator targets multiple victims — as in this case spanning the US and UK — pooling resources across victims strengthens both civil and criminal cases. Shared legal costs reduce individual financial burden, and multiple complainants signal a pattern of behavior that makes prosecutors and investigators significantly more likely to prioritize the case over single-victim reports.
• •Critical Thinking in Religious Education: Parents raising children in faith-based schools while holding secular views should respond to religious claims with questions rather than corrections. Asking "how do you think she knows that?" or "what do other people believe?" expands a child's frame of reference without undermining teachers. Modeling comfort with uncertainty — saying "I don't know, let's find out" — builds independent reasoning more effectively than replacing one belief system with another.
• •Addiction Relationship Exit: Staying in a relationship with an active addict typically requires enabling behaviors — attending bars to maintain proximity, tolerating theft framed as accidents, managing communication timing to avoid triggering outbursts. Recognizing these patterns as participation rather than victimhood is the necessary first step. Ending the relationship creates the external consequence the addict needs to recognize the cost of their behavior, which internal motivation alone rarely produces.
• •Networking Through Content: Sending a journalist or author a note referencing their published work — rather than a generic check-in — creates a natural, low-pressure touchpoint that maintains relationships across multi-year gaps. Jordan reconnected with Atlantic writer Graham Wood after over four years of silence by texting about a specific article, which led to an in-person dinner in the same city in rural Yunnan, China — a result no direct "let's catch up" message would have produced.