756: When It Feels Like You Don’t Belong, with Muriel Wilkins

What It Covers

Muriel Wilkins explains how leaders can overcome feelings of not belonging by shifting internal beliefs, defining personal value propositions, and breaking cycles of disengagement.

Key Questions Answered

• •Value Proposition Exercise: Ask yourself what difference it would make if you weren't in the meeting - this forces you to identify your unique contributions and secret sauce.
• •Belonging vs Acceptance: If you're physically at the table and were invited, you belong there - acceptance by others is separate and shouldn't determine your self-worth or participation.
• •Two Categories of Non-Belonging: Leaders feel displaced during role changes or stretch assignments, and when they're first or only representatives of underrepresented groups in senior positions.
• •Belief Examination Process: Before changing behavior, pause to examine what assumptions drive your actions - this creates multiple options for response rather than reactive patterns of withdrawal.