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Should a parent with young kids try to bootstrap a new startup?

64 min episode · 2 min read
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Young Kids Try

Episode

64 min

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2 min

Topics

Career Growth, Health & Wellness, Relationships

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Key Takeaways

  • Maximum Effort Framework: Francis defines his current era as maximum effort across aligned vectors—full-time job at PlanetScale, side business with partner, parenting two-year-old twins—while protecting non-negotiables like breakfast and dinner with kids daily at 07:30 and 05:30 respectively.
  • Sacrifice Equation Strategy: Evaluate what you sacrifice against what you sacrifice for. Francis sacrifices sleep and hobbies but refuses to sacrifice kid time. He wakes at 06:00 for side work, maintains presence at meals, then works evenings after 08:30 bedtime—protecting family boundaries while pursuing business dreams.
  • Career Compatibility Advantage: Working as developer educator at PlanetScale provides strategic alignment—building audience and skills in same domain as side business, varying work types between day job content creation and evening coding, plus remote flexibility and stable income for family health insurance needs.
  • Foundation Before Bootstrap: Jackson advises most people should find better jobs before starting businesses. Moving from $80,000 to $130,000 salary provides 70-80% of desired outcomes with higher success probability than bootstrapping from desperate financial position. Hungry beats desperate every time for business building.
  • Communication Infrastructure Required: Both emphasize therapy as essential—Francis attends individual counseling five years, couples therapy on-off six years. They recommend third-party facilitation to align expectations, establish frameworks like Individual Pursuits Night versus couple time, and conduct honest assessments of actual capacity and constraints.

What It Covers

Justin Jackson and Aaron Francis debate whether parents with young kids should bootstrap startups simultaneously. Francis argues for maximum effort now with strategic sacrifices, while Jackson cautions about unnecessary risk and burnout based on experience.

Key Questions Answered

  • Maximum Effort Framework: Francis defines his current era as maximum effort across aligned vectors—full-time job at PlanetScale, side business with partner, parenting two-year-old twins—while protecting non-negotiables like breakfast and dinner with kids daily at 07:30 and 05:30 respectively.
  • Sacrifice Equation Strategy: Evaluate what you sacrifice against what you sacrifice for. Francis sacrifices sleep and hobbies but refuses to sacrifice kid time. He wakes at 06:00 for side work, maintains presence at meals, then works evenings after 08:30 bedtime—protecting family boundaries while pursuing business dreams.
  • Career Compatibility Advantage: Working as developer educator at PlanetScale provides strategic alignment—building audience and skills in same domain as side business, varying work types between day job content creation and evening coding, plus remote flexibility and stable income for family health insurance needs.
  • Foundation Before Bootstrap: Jackson advises most people should find better jobs before starting businesses. Moving from $80,000 to $130,000 salary provides 70-80% of desired outcomes with higher success probability than bootstrapping from desperate financial position. Hungry beats desperate every time for business building.
  • Communication Infrastructure Required: Both emphasize therapy as essential—Francis attends individual counseling five years, couples therapy on-off six years. They recommend third-party facilitation to align expectations, establish frameworks like Individual Pursuits Night versus couple time, and conduct honest assessments of actual capacity and constraints.

Notable Moment

Francis reveals his business with partner Colleen has not achieved success after two years of effort, recording this episode while metaphorically between trapezes with no certainty of catching the next one, yet maintains conviction the sacrifice equation balances correctly for his specific situation and constraints.

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Episode Transcript

This podcast is hosted by transistor.fm. Welcome to build your SaaS. This is the behind the scenes story of building a web app in 2023. I'm Justin. And today, I have an Internet friend joining me, Aaron Francis. How's it going, Aaron? Good. It's, it's exciting to be here. I'm a longtime listener, first time caller. It's this is the first time we've talked, and it's it's very strange because I listen to you all the time. You have had a few podcasts. You have the Hammerstone podcast. Right? Yep. Framework friends. Am I missing anything? A long time ago, I had one called the Music Makers. Oh, okay. That was, like, six or seven years ago, but it is now defunct. So that was my first podcast. Alright. Well, I I listen to your voice all the time, and I also interact with you all the time on Twitter. And we are going to discuss, pretty hot topic this this time, which is, can you bootstrap a new startup and do that while you have young kids at the same time? So can you, bootstrap a family and bootstrap, a new company at the same time? And, I had a Twitter thread on this, and then I also wrote kind of a a blog post that that encompassed some of my thoughts, which is me really reflecting on trying to build multiple things when my kids were young, and now wondering if that was the best idea. If I should have just maybe waited a bit longer to, do both. Just because, as you know, starting a family is a lot of energy and requires a lot of focus, a lot of time. And birthing a company also is a lot of energy and a lot of time. Yeah. So maybe to start out, for folks who don't know you, explain kind of what you're doing right now professionally, and then share as much about your family situation as you'd like. So, yeah, what are you doing professionally, and then what's the the parenting situation right now? Professionally, I have a full time job at a company called PlanetScale. We're a MySQL, platform company. So I work full time, full time job as a I'm a developer educator, which means I basically, you know, make a bunch of videos, write a bunch of articles. I did recently, I did a very big course on on MySQL. And so that's kind of amazing, by the way. As a Oh, thanks. As as a sidestep, I think folks should go check that out. How do they search for that? It's just like, is it MySQL PlanetScale? Will that find will it find out if that probably do it. MySQL for developers, PlanetScale would probably would probably do it better. Planetscale.com/courses would get you there as well. It's awesome. People should check it out. Thanks. Yeah. It was a lot of fun, and a huge amount of work, which we can talk …

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